Monday, April 29, 2013

How fucking dare you!?

Heads are going to roll at Little Shit's pre-school today. She goes 2 days a week, but is usually lucky to make it both days due to some health issues. When we selected the pre-school, we were very clear with her teachers and the directors on how Little Shit needs extra attention around potty matters because of the health issues - 25 UTI's in a 1 1/2 year period and bowel problems, multiple specialists and some procedures. She has spent more time on antibiotics than I have in my entire life!

Luckily, Little Shit's primary teacher had previously been a nurses assistant and was somewhat familiar with Little Shit's problems and understood the importance of our directions and what we asked. We felt lucky that the school and teachers were going to be accommodating - you'd be surprised at how many were not equipped or even willing to understand and meet our needs.

Lately when Little Shit has been dropped off at class, her primary teacher hasn't been there. Come to find out, she was transferred to another room. That wouldn't be a big deal except for what happened on Friday. We got home and I took Little Shit to the bathroom only to find dried poop on her bottom and in her pull up. When asked about it, she said she had pooped on the potty at school, but the teacher refused to wipe her. The teacher had told her that she was a big girl and needed to wipe on her own. Little Shit was upset over all of it because it made her feel like a baby that she doesn't wear big girl panties at school and needs help. Yes, Little Shit is 4. Yes, she is in pull ups. Yes, she is potty trained. HOWEVER, due to her medical issues she can't always make it to the potty so she gets limited time in big girl panties at home. And due to her medical issues, she is not to wipe herself when she poops.

I am so fucking pissed about the attitude of the new teacher. My 4 year old is not in pull ups because she has lazy parents that don't want her wearing big girl panties. My 4 year old has endured so much pain with infections and sickness, confusion at being poked and prodded by doctors, and shame at not being able to control herself like the other kids. How fucking DARE the teacher make her feel bad!?!



And it's not just the teacher's attitude. Other parents see my 4 year old in pull ups and judge me and my husband. They wonder why we wouldn't have potty trained our daughter by now. You can feel the condescending and superior attitude as they share how their own kid was potty trained early on. Kudos to them. I don't need to fucking explain my child's problems for them. For the rest of you reading this, when you see something you don't understand, something like this, think before you judge. Unless it's someone breastfeeding a 7 year old. Then judge all you want because I'll be doing the same.

8 comments:

  1. I am SOOOOO sorry for your Daughter! And good luck to the jerk who's head you're about to rip off! lol

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  2. I am so sorry Lil Shit had this happen to her. I hate the public.. it's like they have no compassion left for anyone that is slightly different than they are.

    hang in there..

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  3. Awwww! I'm with you, I would be so pissed at that teacher! I hate judgemental asshole people!

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  4. Go take a chunk of out of that teacher this morning! I don't blame you on bit...as for those parents..they need to piss off!

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  5. I am SO SORRY for Little-Shit's pain and humiliation!! OMG! This exact thing was happening to my neice, who was AGE 5 and NOT potty trained. Why? Well, it certainly wasn't laziness or bad parenting! For God's sake, my sister (her Mom) ran a large, sucessful daycare and I was her partner. We KNOW what we are doing with regards to potty-training! (understatement!) Lol. I took "Brookie" to the pediatrician at least 2 times, sister took her a few times as well. She has a combo of issues that are not helping her to learn: ADD/ADHD, Stress! and constipation were 3 of the main things (I think). That Doctor tried SO hard and very kindly, drawing her diagrams of her insides and how it works! We asked her if she is 'scared of the potty' she answered with a QUICK YES!! She thought a snake was "crawling up the toilet and biting her butt" (it was actually poop coming out, painful from dehydration etc.)
    "Brookie" is now 7 years old and STILL HAS PROBLEMS! Yes. Is she improved?? YOU'RE GODDAM RIGHT SHE HAS!! This world, life, mess that we brought these kids into is a freakin nightmare!! We push these little people SO HARD to do everything perfectly! So, she wets her bed at night now? At least she's going potty at school (no accidents) and more importantly: SHE FEELS BETTER ABOUT HERSELF!!OMG

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  6. What the hell?! That teacher needs to be taught how to deal with those sort of situations, and the pre school should of definitely been checking that your daughters needs were being met with a new teacher in the classroom. Your poor daughter should not of had to deal with that, she has enough to cope with for someone so young, she should not be made to feel inferior for something that is out of her control. I hope that teacher gets a disciplinary for that sort of behaviour.

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  7. Awww that poor girl. I'm so sorry she has to deal with that. That teacher is terrible. Don't get into working with children if you don't care about children. Seems like common sense to me.

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  8. Your daughter sounds exactly like mine! UTI's, maintenance antibiotics, antibiotic immunity, and then teachers thinking that my daughter was playing games - and me throwing the biggest damn fits ever until someone listened. My child went thru hell medically with procedures I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy! That is horrid that the new teacher would make her feel like that! Stand your ground Mama! And don't back down!

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